So many have been leaving us recently. Perhaps this reposted blog can be soothing for you? I pray it helps my readers. Blessings Dr. Y
Friday, March 03, 2017 www.rubysrightings.blogspot.com/
SITTING SHIVA FOR A LOVED ONE
People have devised so many ways to deal with death of loved ones. In Tibetan Buddhist tradition they do a sky burial. Some believe in cremation. Others bury immediately and SIT SHIVA. Still others, make a huge celebration and view the body of the deceased. Whatever your beliefs, this is an emotional experience to be respected.
I recently lost a number of soul-beloveds, one right after another. At first I thought I was doing o.k. But then, it seemed like my body just collapsed on me. From some place beyond most peoples' beliefs, I was told to SIT SHIVA. This spiritual custom is how old? Perhaps even long before the Ancient Hebrews began doing this, it was practiced by the bereaved. For me, when all else gives zero relief, it is a MUST do. There is some kind of closure to doing this act of respect and paying homage to loved ones. Whether human or even a cherished pet, SITTING SHIVA is an overt act of having to let go of what was, and accepting what is now. I must tell you that at the end of this round of paying homage to my loved ones, I do have a better sense of closure. Besides, for me, physical death is merely the beginning of attending a new school of challenging learning in the spiritual realms. Please comment on your beliefs?
# posted by Dr. RubyNorma Yanez, CH.t @ 11:14 AM 
Comments:
The grief we feel at the death of a favored person or pet has generated many cultural actions, often dating back to time immemorial, as you note about the Sit Shiva. There is also a need for a "mind cleansing", if I may call it that, when someone whom you have detested in life dies, like an abusive relative, so the surviving person can go on through life with a (fractionally) healed mind. JIM
Dear Jim... You bring up an excellent point about a detested one dying. Ruby *o*
My husband and I were pregnant with twins. We are sitting SHIVA for them now. They were stillborn. Anon
# posted by 
: 5:39 PM
: 5:39 PM
We are so sorry for your losses. May you find them again when GOD calls you. amen
# posted by : 5:40 PM
: 5:40 PM
Beautiful sentiments – love the empty dog bed
I think my beliefs are very similar if not the same as yours
Hugs from Tucson,
N
Dear N.,
We are very spiritually similar in our beliefs. RubyNorma *o*
I think my beliefs are very similar if not the same as yours
Hugs from Tucson,
N
Dear N.,
We are very spiritually similar in our beliefs. RubyNorma *o*
# posted by : 5:43 PM
: 5:43 PM
Thank you Dear Dr. Yanez....
Grief is ongoing but it gets softer with time.
What a tribute to your beloveds.
Blessings,
H/elen
Grief is ongoing but it gets softer with time.
What a tribute to your beloveds.
Blessings,
H/elen
# posted by : 8:34 AM
: 8:34 AM The grief we feel at the death of a favored person or pet has generated many cultural actions, often dating back to time immemorial, as you note about the Sit Shiva. There is also a need for a "mind cleansing", if I may call it that, when someone whom you have detested in life dies, like an abusive relative, so the surviving person can go on through life with a (fractionally) healed mind. JIM
Dear Jim... You bring up an excellent point about a detested one dying. Ruby *o*
# posted by : 8:40 AM
: 8:40 AM 
Halleluyah! Someone is addressing grief. We do not all heal rapidly from the loss of loved ones. When my wife and children died in an accident one year ago, I thought I'd die from the sorrow. One year later it is hardly healed. most people forget quickly enough after the funeral. I am still grieving. anon
ReplyDeleteDear Anon.... Yes, I really do understand. Please find a very sympathetic grief counselor when you are ready. Dr. Y
DeleteC'mon Dr. Y. We only live once. Grief is for cowards. Move on with your lives. Don't waste time on dead people and pets for too long. anon NYC
ReplyDeleteLove is forever. Sadly, hate can be too. One of the comments is about when someone who abused you dies. What is your take? I see that you do answer publicly. anon
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmmmmmm.... There is no easy answer anon. When someone dies who has abused you, then... I believe it should be addressed with professional help. Grieving is strange. We can and do grieve for our abusers. If it was me, I would go for help. Many just tough it out alone. I know this is not a very definitive answer, but, it is the best I can muster.
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We share in grief in many ways. The Kübler-Ross model, or the five stages of grief, postulates a series of emotions experienced by terminally ill patients prior to DEATH, or people who have lost a loved one, wherein the five stages are denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Never quite fit me, what I have learned from you feels more intact with me emotionally.
ReplyDeleteI love you!!!!!
Dear Val... Kubler Ross was attended to by our Tibetan Buddhist teacher, Za Cheoche Rinpoche. True greatness w/o the superficial trimmings. Love back to you. Ruby
DeleteG. believes this will bring comfort to readers.
ReplyDeleteEven though we once read this blog when it was originally published, it is reposted at an important time. Our family just suffered a great loss. ANON in Indiana
ReplyDeleteTexans are mourning the horrendous church massacre. Thank you for posting. It is so timely. A Texan Family
ReplyDeleteThank you Dr. Y for this publishing. It resonates with our spiritual beliefs. Southern California
ReplyDeletePeople grieve in many ways around the globe. N
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